GETTING MARRIED YOUNG

Assalamualaikum, hello reader!

Now, the topic is rather interesting isn't it? I'm not saying that I am an expert in this, nor do I have any first hand-experience but it's just me, sharing my two cents; based on some knowledge from others and observations. Personally, I think that marriage, regardless of age, is a beautiful thing !

And among His Signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect. 

[30: Ar-Rum-21]

If you're young (lets say 18-24), and if you've found someone that you cannot imagine life without, the next thing to do is get married right? Well that'll be the RIGHT thing to do.  If marriage is on your mind, then my dear, you're on the right track and I absolutely agree with you. But why do certain people, (I'm not saying all, because some families do not have a problem marrying their child young. Young: refer age range stated above) think that they're talking nonsense. As if they're not entitled to the right of getting married. "Kau ni gatal betul, belajar tak habis nak kahwin", "Ha dah tak sabar sangat lah tu", and loads of more shitty replies that do not even expand that poor guy/lady's minds. 

                                     

At least, have the decency to give an intelligent reply, treat them as adults, have a proper discussion as to WHY-ask them about their intentions (read about INTENTIONS OF MARRIAGE IN ISLAM HERE) and share some knowledge on how to know that you're ready. Parents, you can't judge your sons or daughters maturity if you RARELY see them. Your son or daughter might have be a completely different person even after a few days or weeks. You can't simply say "NO" without giving them reasons. Do you want them to rebel? This is why (maybe), we see a lot of "Kahwin Lari" cases in Malaysia. Sigh.

Contrary to popular belief, I think that one does not need to have at least 50k or 100k cash in possession to get married. You see, I get really upset when they hear the word marriage, expensive things come to mind. The thing is, IT DOES NOT HAVE TO BE EXPENSIVE. 

“The best of dowries is the simplest.” Narrated by al-Haakim and al-Bayhaqi and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’ (3279). And he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The best of marriage is the simplest.” Narrated by Ibn Hibbaan and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’ (3300).

Take a look on how she did her wedding with just rm5k-:
http://inibeloglynmarzuki.blogspot.com/2013/12/bajet-pernikahan-lyn-marzuki.html
Now don't go and make shitty remarks like "rm5k is a lot of money, if you're spoon fed by parents who earn 5 digits every month then it's just like nothing". Hello please take a calculator and add up all your spendings that go to movies, shopping, hipster cafes, karaoke and all that stuff and multiply them by 12 (a year). I'm pretty sure it'll add up to 5k... So there you go.

You can be a student, and also a married one. I've been amongst married couples who are still studying, and they're happy. Of course there's bound to be struggles, what is life without them? They don't need a lavish wedding, Islam does not promote that anyway.  They make do with what they have. I envy these people why? Because they've completed yet another part of their iman, and the best part is, they'll have someone to share these few early life experiences in the midst of adulthood--the halal way. They can, and WILL enjoy life--the halal way. Do crazy stuff--the halal way. Those are the very few simple but beautiful things about getting married early that I can think of. These young couples have so much ahead of them, and they have the opportunity to do them together. Marriage brings oneself to a special spiritual peace as stated in the Quran (refer below). Plus, ladies, you'll have a personal bodyguard around!

"And among His signs are that He created for you from your selves mates that you may attain calm unto them and He placed between you affection and compassion. Surely in that are signs for a people who reflect." [Noble Quran 30:21]

I'm not writing this because I'm the one stuck in the situation, but somehow this has been circulating in my pool of thoughts, so might as well let it out, in hope that people can relate, and think. Am I promoting early marriage? Yes, why not ? If you think you are mentally, emotionally and spiritually ready, then go ahead. I'm sure after weighing out the pros and the cons of it, fo sho this beautiful ibadah outweighs all the doubts, in sya Allah.

Here's what a newlywed dude has to say  to the world; (it's in Malay though)

https://www.facebook.com/myusrijamal/posts/10206009689015588:0

and another newlywed's shoutout to the world, some of you might know her thru instagram/twitter: nurinqistina
http://thegirlinabaya.blogspot.com/2015/08/mrs-sheikh-asyraf-bux-now.html

For further reading, I suggest you click this linnk for a very awesome & thorough write up about marriage in Islam;
http://www.islamic-world.net/sister/purpose_and_obligation.htm

All the best!

xx